Imprinting

I’m reading a new book called “10 Smart Things Can Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love” I’ve only just started reading it but already it has brought up some amazing points, one is about gay imprinting.  As children we are nearly all born to straight parents, and nearly all of us figure out there is something wrong with being gay when we are at school and in our families, so we run and hide from what we naturally are to survive.  As we get older and feel we should no longer deny who or what we are, being gay comes bubbling out no matter how hard we try to hide from it, of course some people are more successful than others are repressing and hiding.  But basically no one plans to come out, studies it, or has any instruction on it.  So coming out is basically what happens when someone decides they can’t hide from it anymore.  So basically if gay men around you are a mess, don’t be too hard on them, because no one has lead the way and shown them what it means to be gay and mature.  A lot of us regress back to a child like state as that may have been when we last felt safe and happy.  With no positive role models out there for us to follow, no wonder we end up in bars clinging to each other for support.  There isn’t a history of intellectualism to guide the way on what it means to be gay.  If the whole world is set up to show what it means to be straight and you’re not, where as a child are we supposed to imprint and learn how to mature gay men, no wonder we are all about sex, it’s the only thing that comes naturally everything else is socialization and needs to be learnt.