The Donkey and the Race Horse

I thought everyone knew this saying as it’s from Absolutely Fabulous, but my neighbor who was busily telling me about all her lawyer friends who all can’t find men hadn’t heard of it.  So maybe other people watch Ab Fab drunk and don’t remember much.  Her friends are big time high flyers in the Sydney law scene and none of them can find men.  But they are all after men who can match them in the shiny prestigious stakes, but two big time lawyers together, how would those egos fit under the one roof?  Who’s going to raise the children, the nanny?  It’s ok for women to have the big career, but this saying is about two race horses if stabled next to each other, kick the shit out of each other because they are both competitive in nature and high maintenance animals who need to always win.  Put a race horse next to a donkey and they will get on fine as the donkey doesn’t compete, it calms the horse down and makes it calm so it’s well rested for race day and performs better.

It’s saying that sometimes two shiny glamour’s people who like the spot light shouldn’t go after someone else who is going to also like the spot light.  Sometimes one person needs to decide that he is shiny enough for both of them and someone needs to decide that they want to help their partner be the shiny glamorous one and helping them be that is better than competing with each other.